A guide for parents:
If you’re the parent of a neurodiverse child—whether they’re autistic, have ADHD, sensory processing disorder, or another neurodevelopmental condition—you may already be well acquainted with something called sensory overload. It can show up in everyday places like grocery stores, family gatherings, or even during what seems like a calm day at home.
What Is Sensory Overload?
Sensory overload happens when one or more of the body’s senses is overwhelmed by too much input. Think of it like trying to listen to five radio stations at once while someone shines a torch in your eyes and sprays perfume nearby. For many neurodiverse kids, this is not just uncomfortable—it can be distressing, disorienting, or even painful.
Some common signs your child might be experiencing sensory overload include:
- Covering ears or eyes
- Meltdowns or shutting down
- Irritability or panic
- Refusing to enter certain environments (like noisy restaurants or crowded classrooms)
- Sudden withdrawal or aggression
Every child is different, so it’s not always obvious—and it’s rarely something they’re doing on purpose.
Practical Steps Parents Can Take:
Here are some ways you can support your child when sensory overload is a challenge:
- Create a “Safe Space” at Home
Designate a calming area where your child can retreat if things get too overwhelming. This space should be low-stimulation—soft lighting, cozy textures, perhaps noise-cancelling headphones, fidget toys, or weighted blankets. Let them know it’s always okay to take a break there.
- Use Visual Schedules or Cues
For kids who struggle with transitions or uncertainty, visual schedules or picture cards can reduce anxiety. Knowing what’s coming next can help them mentally prepare and reduce overload triggers.
- Noise-Cancelling Tools are Game-Changers
A good pair of noise-reducing headphones can help in noisy settings like shopping centers, school cafeterias, or busy streets. You can also try earplugs or calming music playlists.
- Understand Their Triggers
Start observing patterns: Is it bright lights, crowds, loud sounds, certain clothing textures, or strong smells that cause distress? Keep a simple sensory diary to track meltdowns or shutdowns—it can help you anticipate challenges and plan ahead.
- Give Them Control Where You Can
Let them choose their clothes (some textures are intolerable), the lighting in their room, or what seat they want at dinner. Little choices can give them a sense of control and reduce stress.
- Don’t try and get a response from them when they are in a state of overload – instead, try “Low and Slow” Responses
When your child is overloaded, stay calm. Use a soft voice, give them space, and avoid asking too many questions. Their brain is already on high alert—gentle, minimal communication works best in that moment. Saying “I hear you,” “I see that this is hard for you,” or “I’m here when you’re ready” can be incredibly grounding.
- Prep for Outings with a “Sensory Toolkit”
Pack a small bag with your child’s sensory supports: chewy necklaces, stress balls, sunglasses, headphones, or favourite comfort items. Let them help choose what goes in—it builds independence and trust.
Remember: You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
Supporting a neurodiverse child is a journey, and sensory overload is just one piece of the puzzle. Some days will be harder than others, and that’s okay. Your presence, patience, and willingness to learn alongside your child are already huge gifts.
Author: Julia Ahrell
Neurodiversity Coach
